Helping Children Stop Relational Aggression

At our school, we value kindness, respect, and inclusion. One behaviour that can sometimes appear in the playground or classroom is relational aggression. This is when friendships or social connections are used to hurt others, for example:

• Leaving someone out on purpose
• Gossiping or spreading rumours
• Using friendship as a way to control or exclude

While it might not always be obvious, relational aggression can have a big impact on a child’s confidence and wellbeing.

How can we help children stop this behaviour?

• Talk about it: Help your child recognise what relational aggression looks like and why it’s hurtful.
• Promote empathy: Encourage your child to think about how others might feel if excluded.
• Model kindness: Children copy what they see. Show inclusive and respectful behaviour in everyday life.
• Encourage positive friendships: Support your child to spend time with peers who make them feel safe and respected.
• Speak up safely: Teach your child it’s okay to seek help from a teacher if they feel excluded or see others being treated unkindly.

Together, we can foster a school environment where every child feels valued, included, and respected.

Remember:

• Before you act, STOP
  
• THINK: Will this hurt or help?
• CHOOSE KIND every time!